She can rationalize it however she likes, but at the end of the day she is bullying someone to get her way. Does she have to be reminded of Luke's cave experience when he trained with Yoda? Be very careful that you do not become that very thing that you hate. What if she is wrong about not hurting her?
Also how many Jedi's have you seen use Force Choke, Natsumi? What's that, its a Sith power? Huh, wonder why.