[X] He wants to be acknowledged and respected

The key here is to not have Shinji explain himself on his answer here. There is no reason why Shinji would admit to why he wants acknowledgement of his family or even mention them. Not to this teacher and certainly not to his peers. Shinji might be more open this go around but he is not that open. But in the end this more than anything in the world is what he wants. Power and knowledge our the tools to gain the ultimate goal here, acknowledgment.

[X] Ask her about her reaction to receiving her Hogwarts Letter

Given that she is a muggle and that she has her own idea of what a wizard is due to love of DnD, I would be amused to hear her response on the subject. its a safe topic that brings up her muggle background in a way that not as rude as simply bringing it up.